Two Under Two
I no longer have two under two, I’ve graduated to a just-turned three year old and 19 month old. I’ll do the math for you, they are 17 months apart. I wish I could tell you it gets easier after the first year, but it doesn’t it just changes in the ways it can be challenging. If your pregnant I don’t want that to scare you, having two under two is an adjustment, but totally worth it (a sneak peak into the first year of life with two under two!) But, telling you about my first year is only the start. Here’s the second part, how I made it through the first year with my sanity intact (or at least partially.)
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Tip #1 – The Right Gear
There are a billion and one baby products to choose from and so many that I love! But, there are a few that became everyday lifesavers when caring for two under two.
I cannot tell you how many times this stroller saved my sanity. Sometimes it was going for a walk at nap time to get both of them to fall asleep. Both seats fully recline at the same time! This meant I could walk until they fell asleep and know they were comfortable. I could wheel the stroller into our house and let them nap in the stroller, giving me time to shower, clean, or relax. I also used the stroller for quick grocery shopping trips. The basket below is big enough for a good amount of items and I didn’t have to fight a toddler who didn’t want to stay seated in the shopping cart. We still use our stroller daily and love it!
Every newborn loves to be snuggled and held, but when you also have a toddler that also demands a lot of love and attention you can’t always just sit and enjoy baby snuggles. Thats where the Solly Baby Wrap comes in. I would wear Vivian for hours at a time at home so I could still have two hands to play, read, and give Henry plenty of attention. I had a lot of mom-guilt for cutting Henry’s “only child” time short. By wearing Vivian gave me the opportunity to easily shower Henry with love while keeping Vivian happy and comfortable too! I even figured out how to nurse her while she was in the wrap!
There were also times when I needed my own space to get stuff done or relax. The MamaRoo 4 was amazing at soothing Vivian and she didn’t have to be asleep to stay calm in it either which was really important to me. It wasn’t just for the newborn stage either – we used it until she was just over a year old! The MamaRoo was my go-to for Vivian when I wanted to shower or was getting ready for the day.
Tip #2 – Join a Gym with a Daycare
Don’t be alarmed, I’m not telling you getting back into shape is how to stay sane. But, by joining a gym with a daycare I could have guaranteed time to myself each day. That may sound selfish, but being a happy and healthy mom made me a better mom. We belong to the YMCA and they provide childcare for a maximum of 2 hours per day while you are at their facilities. I could workout and shower or even just go sit in the sauna or hot tub and relax, but somedays having up to two hours of focusing on myself was a complete game changer. (The picture above is old, I was pregnant with Vivian. But, I promise I use our YMCA membership multiple times weekly!)
Tip #3- Be a rebel, break the rules
All those “parenting” rules and guides, throw them out the window. Having two under two can be crazy, stressful, hectic, and exhausting. But, you know what made life easier? Not worrying that I was doing everything was being done “by the book.” If your “older baby” naps at 4pm and then doesn’t go to bed till 11pm, but everyone is happy and healthy, then it works! If having a strict schedule makes you happy, then thats what works for you. The less I worried about what the books(or random advisors) told me I should be doing, the happier I was.
TIP #4 – Happy Parents = Happy kids
If there is one thing thats easy to forget between changing diapers and getting two babies to sleep is that your marriage needs love and attention too. Take at least ten minutes a day to talk about each other, your day, their day, everything but the kids. Get a sitter, take a few hours to enjoy each other. I wish I would have known about Bonding Bee’s earlier, it’s a great way to sneak in those at-home date nights and is honestly a blast (my husband seriously loves it too!) Taking time to focus on your marriage will make everything else easier, including those stressful time when those two babies seem like they aren’t ever going to stop crying, sleep through the night, or be potty-trained.
Tip #5 – Get Out of the House
At first, it can be really intimidating or even seem impossible to have a good time outside the house. But, I promise with the right gear (ugh umm tip #1) you can do it and it will make everything seem much better! Go to the park, on a walk, to the mall, or even to Target! Vivian was born in the middle of winter and getting myself and both kids bundled up was a hassle, but if that meant strolling up and down Target Isles with a hot Starbucks coffee, it was worth it! Getting outside your home makes the day go by faster and will give you more confidence that you “got this” as a mom of two under two.
The days are long, but the years are short. It goes by in the blink of an eye, there will be amazing days, and not-so-amazing days. Always remember you got this mama, you’re amazing!
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