I log onto various social media platforms and scroll through. Majority of us do it. So here I am-minding my own business, looking at pictures and posts, when suddenly the green monster starts to hit me:
How are they on vacation AGAIN? I want to go on a vacation.
She just had a baby and her body looks perfect! I wish I had her body.
Their house is GORGEOUS and in the perfect location! I want to build a new house.
I find myself turning into ‘Ol Negative Nancy wishing and wanting things I don’t have. It’s not on purpose; and it’s not because I’m unhappy, it’s because I’m human.
Lately I have been trying to hop off the jealousy train and stop comparing myself and my life to others. I remind myself that I am so thankful for my husband, my healthy tot, a growing baby in my tummy, our home that fits our family perfectly, and so much more. I think the word ‘blessed’ is overused. However, in this case I think it’s the perfect term. I am truly blessed for all the things I have in my life. I may not have the perfect body, my ideal house, all of the cutest clothes, or fanciest child-hauling SUV. But, what I do have, I love, and I am thankful for it.
Greed and jealousy can take over easily, and I think in our sharing society it makes it harder to avoid. Something that I have tried to remind myself is that other than ‘over-sharers’ (we all know them) people only post the best things they have going for them. In the tagline of a new home’s Facebook picture, you don’t see the stress behind the choice to move homes was to be closer to their parents who are entering into advanced age. You don’t see the tag “I financed this motorcycle at a criminally high interest rate!” No-one Instagrams past-due notices. When taken at face value, other people may seem to just constantly win. And I truly hope that some people really do! But everyone has problems, and comparing yourself to someone’s chosen sharing is tough, and unfair. The comparison that I am working on making is asking myself, am I happier than I was in the past? Am I improving? If not, it’s time to log off.